When will I ever learn?

Well this past weekend was another blunder that will keep me in the dog house for a while. To know my spouse, is to know one hell of a strong willed woman. She is very head strong and find a way to get things her way. This has it's good and bad points. She is very logical and looks at things carefully when making decisions. However, on the flip side, she is very quick to form immediate opinions (right or wrong) when she hears something that sets her back on here heels.

The story itself isn't that important. We were in front of someone else having a conversation together and I made a comment (harmless) about what our activities would be next weekend. As typical I had my dates screwed up. That too doesn't really matter as that wasn't the issue. I am still not real sure what she heard or in what tone she heard it in but I can promise her interpretation was a total misfire. What she heard however, lit the fuse on the dynamite.

As we walk to the car, she made some comments and promptly stopped talking as our son was with us and she did not want to deal with this in front of him. As I attempted miserably to try and figure out what I said or how I said it incorrectly, I peacefully made it home and even managed to answer questions to our son regarding this incident.

Now up to this point, I honestly have done nothing wrong. I said nothing wrong or even improper. When we get home, the flame throwers a lit in my direction. Here is where I screwed up. When the wife blew up at me, I did not think or even respond, I reacted. I should have thrown in the towel at that point and cut the losses. But Nooooo... I have to prove my point. It didn't take long for sanity to return and for me to know we both needed to step away. At this point, there is not appropriate response as the moment I open the mouth, she runs it over like a freight train. She vents and vents and vents until she realizes I've stopped arguing. A few moments later, I come back with a sincere apology for my ugly reaction and I even give a more appropriate response to the original reaction. I really am sorry that she misunderstood what I had said and her response is that apology was all she wanted in the first place.

Now the funny part is that she still doesn't see her part in the entire situation but I digress. All she wanted was for me to understand how she felt and accept how she felt. Right or wrong. This is sometimes more difficult to do than say. For us men out there, take it from me. Sometimes, we simply need to listen to our spouses and nothing more. Love and accept them and the peace goes much further. When it comes to emotions, many times, right, wrong and even logic have no presence.

Thank goodness the meltdown is over and we can get back to normal. But I'm sure I'll be looking for brownie points for a while